* Acknowledgment: My thoughts below are written from a heterosexual perspective and from my heterosexual experiences.
I hear from men all the time that what they want most is a lady by day and a freak in the sheets at night. I think a lot of women think similarly. There’s nothing sexier to me than a chivalrous gentleman who won’t hesitate to spank my ass at night.
That said, some folks are out here “hoing” at unbelievable levels. I have heard the Tinder stories, folks are living their best sexual lives in the 1-9.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to seem judgmental. I think it’s great if you’re comfortable with your body and sex. I’m envious of that sexual freedom. I’m working hard to be more sex positive after so many years of conditioned shame.
And I don’t know if it’s the religious influence imprinted on my soul, but I just think that there’s a line between naughty and dirty that I don’t want to cross —not for myself and not in the selection of the men that I’m dating.
Naughty is a desirable characteristic to me. It means being open sexually and even experimental. It’s being comfortable with your kinky but also refined and a bit circumspect. Being mature and composed enough to avoid unnecessary risks with your health and safety is important, especially if you’re “dating” multiple people.
Dirty is fucking at every opportunity presented.
Dirty is fucking first and thinking later. It’s thinking she/he looks clean so I don’t need to practice safe sex this time. Dirty is willing to gamble every time… for a piece.
So I have a question for you guys and gals. Do you think there’s a difference between naughty and dirty? If so, how do you determine if someone you’re thinking of dating is naughty or dirty?
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